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My Essential Oil Journey

November 7, 2017

essential oilsEssential oils…you either love them or you hate them. They are everywhere recently and everyone has an opinion. They can almost be as annoying as all the people who sell things on instagram and while I totally get that I just beg you not to write them off. So whats mine opinion? I love them! I use them for many different things, and I totally believe that they help. I’ve been using essential oils for about 3 years now, and while I do not use them for everything or know everything about them my knowledge has grown.

I’m not sure if I’ve talked about this on my blog before, but for the past few years migraines and I go hand in hand. At the beginning of 2014 I was halfway through my sophomore year or college. I had recently started the design program and all of the sudden I was constantly having headaches. It was a daily thing that ranged from an annoying dull pain to a full blown migraine that was affect by sound and light. At first I assumed it had to do with how much time I was spending in front of a screen but once they continued into summer with no relief I was annoyed. Nothing brought me relief and eventually I just stopped taking any sort of pain medication because it didn’t help. It felt like I had some sort of headache every day that year. By the end of the year I had been to the eye doctor, my normal doctor and was waiting to see a neurologist. I was simply going through the list of things to try and find the problem and some relief. That was when the graduate assistant in the office I worked for on campus gave me a small sample of peppermint oil. And oh I was praising the Lord after trying that! While it didn’t take my headaches away it gave me more relief than any pain medication had in about a year. That was just about all it took to get me hooked.

I started out by trying out a starter kit that included in peppermint, lemon, and lavender. Eventually I purchased a physicians kit that is supposedly able to replace your medicine cabinet. Now that’s not me. I firmly believe in modern medicine and going to the doctor. I am not that person who won’t take any medication or use cleaning products. I simply try to reach for my essential oils before I reach for medicine. It’s a small way that I try to use more natural things.

Something that I want to preface about essential oils is that they are not a 100% fix everything item. Just like certain medications only work for certain people essential oils are the same way. Peppermint oil gives my dull headaches some relief, but maybe it doesn’t for you. That’s normal! Lavender works wonders for sleep, but it doesn’t for me. It gives me really strange dreams. Yet, a blend of lavender, chamomile, and vanilla totally helps me sleep amazing! I think people start trying essential oils and think they are some kind of magic that will fix all their problems within the first few minutes. You medicine, cleaning products or creams don’t work like that and neither with these natural products. You simply have to try it out and find what works for you.

Mikeala

So now that you’ve heard my story I want to introduce you to Mikaela. She is a distributor for young living essential oils. While there are many different brands of essential oils some are obviously better than others and young living is the best of the best! You can simply tell they are better by how potent a smell is compared to some that are diluted just from opening a bottle. Mikaela has a great instagram all about how she uses essential oils and some of the ways are really inspiring! She’s so friendly and helpful and would love to answer any questions you have regarding essential oils or why you should chose young living. Her e-mail is theradiantoilers@gmail.com.

Comment below and tell me if you use essential oils and how!

Life, Style

Late Apple Season

October 16, 2017

Moo's Musing Apple Picking

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As we all know it’s fall….kind of….I’m writing this blog post and the high today is 98…so you can decide how “fall” it actually is.

BUT! We can’t skip out on apple picking just because of the weather! We went apple picking last weekend (which yes it late in the season). Usually we go in September before all the apples are gone and the pumpkin mayhem begins, however life kind of got in the way this year and it just didn’t happen. It was packed and their weren’t many apples left, but it was still fun! Matt had never been apple picking before, so I was a little bummed it was so busy but it was totally still worth it. And once I make the apple turn overs he will totally be even happier!

Because it has been so warm I chose not to go for the sweater look, but I chose this satin olive blouse to still feel just a bit fall like. I got this as a work shirt from Forever 21 months ago, so I linked some similar options below.

Top: Forever 21
Jeans: Hollister
Boots: BP at Nordstrom

Life

Me, You, and the Zoo

October 5, 2017

Snapseed(1) Snapseed Snapseed(2)Last weekend Matt and I went to the zoo! It was seriously such a fun day! The weather was a perfect 75 and it wasn’t too crowded. I’ve been to a few different zoo’s before and the San Diego one many times over the years. It’s a pretty big zoo and lot’s of walking, but totally worth it in my opinion. Matt says he doesn’t remember ever going to a zoo before and that’s where this date idea came from. I couldn’t believe he’d never been to the San Diego Zoo before! He grew up in the area just like me too. It was so fun getting to take him for the first time. He loved it! My favorite animal was probably the baby hippo. Matt’s was this random orange bird that we happened to stumble upon their cages on an unmarked road. I think they were just holding cages until the birds were transported to the aviary, but when we walked up they seemed happy to see us so then Matt was hooked.

My friend made us another vlog from this trip. I seriously love the little videos she creates for me. She’s so talented and they make such good memories!

Have you visited the San Diego Zoo before?

Life, Style

Seasonally Uninspired

September 26, 2017

Moo's Musing Fall Style

Old Navy Bell Sleeve Blouse Old Navy Moo's Musing White Jeans and boots Maroon Bell Sleeves White Jeans Maroon Top Fall Fall White Jeans OutfitThe changing of seasons is probably one of the times I feel least inspired. Everyone else is starting to wear fall clothes, and I am so ready for fall. Completely ready to wear sweaters and scarves. Yet, every year it is still blazing in So Cal and sweaters just are not an option. I never know what to post about since I know everyone really needs fall inspiration but all I can think of is how hot outside it is and how I want it to be cold. It leaves me seriously unsure of what to post and what to spend my money on. I don’t like buying anymore tanks or t-shirts since I won’t be wearing them for much longer and I’m not ready to spend my money on sweaters since I can’t wear those either. So here I am not posting on my blog and feeling like a bad blogger, yet I don’t know what to post about anyway!

I also think my uninspiredness (is that a word? Well I just made it one..) comes from the fact that my life has been so busy. I feel completely stretch thin and like I am not giving my 100% best to anything lately. Working full time has been much more of an adjustment than I anticipated. Working full time and being in a relationship is time consuming! We have something to do practically every night. It’s church, a party, or meetings and then when it’s not that it’s the only night we have just us. Fitting in all my other side gigs just isn’t working. This past weekend my boyfriend pretty much forced me to sleep in and not go to church since I hadn’t not worked in weeks! Every Saturday something is on the books. Lately I feel like I haven’t had time to work on my business or my blog simply because I’m trying to keep up with work and social stuff. Forget working out!

I’m just a walking meme. You’ve probably seen that meme about keeping up a job, friends, sleep, and working out. There’s just not enough hours in the day. And it’s taking it’s toll. I’m stressed. To the max! I want to do a good job and I don’t want to give anything up. I need better time management. And to be honest I miss it. I love blogging and I love connecting with y’all. Yet, I feel so drained and I haven’t been doing a good job. So please forgive me for the lack of involvement and don’t give up on me just yet! I promise I’m trying.

Maybe you feel the same way?  Maybe it’s the changing of the seasons, or the season of life I’m in. But I promise I’m trying and I’m not done yet.

Top: Old Navy
Jeans: Hollister
Boots: GH Bass
Necklace: J Crew

Life, Style

Berry Picking and Gingham

July 26, 2017

rileys farm ca berry picking


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Berry picking season is in full swing! I think almost all berries are in season right now, and our local u-pick farm has tons! Berry picking is probably one of my favorite summer activities. I love spending any time I can outdoors, and this is something that we don’t get to do on the regular.

Usually, my whole family goes picking but this year I got to make a double date out of it. My boyfriend had never been before so we went and invited some of his close friends. He thought paying to pick fruit and help someone else’s farm out seemed silly, but afterward he was totally on board! He said it was more fun than he thought it was going to be; which made me pleased. This little day activity was the first time he had the roll of blogger boyfriend/photographer, and I think the photos came out pretty good! We’ll see how he does growing into the roll ;P

Since we were berry picking as a double date I didn’t want to wear my boots like last year. I had purchased this top on sale actually intending to wear it in Canada and just never did. When I started searching for a berry picking outfit this top was totally perfect! I’m so glad I didn’t shoot it while traveling because gingham is seriously perfect for this! (I actually just noticed I even wore gingham last year too…opps!) I was a little nervous wearing my pink tennis shoes while picking the Ollalie berries since they stain, but I walked away just fine! It was seriously such a fun day!

Top: J Crew Factory
Shorts: Old Navy (last seen here)
Shoes: Old Navy

Life

10 Lessons I Learned In My Singleness

April 18, 2017

SinglenessThere’s a lot to be said about relationships, dating, and being single. Personally, it’s just not for me. I’m really bad at all of it, and I tend to make a lot of stupid mistakes. Then again, I also don’t have a lot of practice in the area. I’ve had two long term relationships, and two very different broken hearts. (I mean weren’t we all a little crushed when we found out Channing Tatum was married?) I prefer to be in a relationship, and the role of girlfriend has always just come much easier to me. Growing up I was never the girl who had crazy high career woman dreams. I always just wanted to be a Godly wife, mother, and homemaker. I think that’s why I prefer a committed relationship rather than the dating world our culture seems to totally love.

The dating game is hard and fairly new to me. Yet, I already feel so tired of it. If you don’t want the personal story of my failed love life you can just skip to the fun points below. If you’re like me and love getting to know each other, then keep reading. My first long term relationship began while I was in my senior year of high school and went into my sophomore year of college. I’d “dated” (if you even want to call high school relationships dating) before, but this was the first serious thing to come my way. I learned a lot from this relationship, and if I’m honest, it wasn’t the healthiest. We fought and bickered a lot and almost always over stupid things. It didn’t end well, and he started dating someone very quickly after which lead to him quickly getting engaged (but that’s another story and may God bless their marriage). The fact that I hadn’t been single while my peers were learning to date was very clear to me. I didn’t know what it was like to bring someone home to meet your parents, or be taken to meet others. Getting asked out on a first date and never getting a second…it was all new and I quickly discovered how little I knew about dating. There was only about 3 or 4 months in which I was single before my next relationship. I maybe went out a few times with a few guys during that time. It wasn’t a lot. I then met my college boyfriend which was honestly a really great relationship. I learned what it meant to be a team, and to be truly happy in a relationship. If you’ve been a reader for a long time, then you’ve seen that one’s face on the blog before. I truly thought this was it for me. I had found the one for me, I was happy and ready to be married. We were working in that direction when one day things came to an abrupt halt and it not only shocked me, but everyone else too. My world was really rocked by this ending, more than I even realized at the time. The heart ache I felt was a lot more than I could even handle. It’s hard to even really describe the pain that I went through, and God is honestly the only reason I got through it. It’s my only explanation as to how I moved forward. Now that was a about a year and half ago.

Over that year and half, I’ve been on some really great dates (hello star gazing), and some realllllyyy bad ones(like that one time I made a grown man cry from simply parting ways after like 2 dates)! Some make for pretty funny stories (to the man who showed up in sweats on a date with a fashion blogger). Once again I was thrown into this dating world that I really knew nothing about. Even better, all the sudden I was graduating college and trying to figure out how to date while not being in school surrounded by eligible men. My seemingly very big ocean had turned into a very small pond to fish in. It was all very new to me, and honestly, not all of it was bad. There are some fun things about dating and being single (free drinks, compliments, and flowers…yes please). And yes, I have learned a lot about myself. I’ve overcome a lot of baggage on my own, and yet I’m still discovering that I carry things I didn’t know would be a problem. I’ve learned a lot about what I don’t like in men (gambling), and what I do (outdoorsy). I’ve learned what I’ll compromise on (country music) and what I won’t (church going). There’s been a lot of important, and unimportant lessons I’ve learned from being single and dating the last year and half. That’s where the idea of this post comes in. I wanted to share some of the things I’ve learned, and hopefully they’ll be helpful to you. I’d love for you to share your stories with me and what things you’ve learned. Talking to y’all is my favorite thing ever! So please share!

I should also mention in here that dating to me is a very big deal. I don’t date just to date…or I don’t date seriously just to play games. We’ve all made mistakes and put up with someone we can’t see ourselves marrying for too long (that’s one of my lessons learned below), but dating for a purpose is important. My parents raised my sister and I with the knowledge that you date to marry. There is a point in dating. You get to know someone to see if you can be in a relationship with them. That relationship has a point as well. Marriage. So as I date, I’m looking to see if I can potentially marry this person. If not, well then why continue to waste time, money, and feelings on someone who isn’t going to be your future spouse.

Distance…It’s a real thing.

I’m serious here. This is one of the first lesson’s I’ve learn when my first long term relationship ended, and it’s the biggest advice I give people. Cut ties! *snip snip* It sucks and it’s part of why a break up hurts so much, but it helps you heal. You can’t move on from someone you talk to everyday. It’s just not possible. I know it’s hard. Usually when a break up happens you don’t just lose a significant other, you lose your best friend too. So not talking is just difficult. It’s totally out of the norm, and that’s even harder too. Your normal has totally changed. Yet, you have to let that normal change. If it doesn’t change, it doesn’t end and you can’t move forward.

Now, I’m not one to unfollow on social media. It’s just not necessary to me (and it seems sorta petty). However, I know it is for some people. So if that’s you and you need them totally gone from your everything, then unfollow away. Delete their number even. Whatever helps make that distance real, do it. Because trust me, it helps. My first break up we didn’t talk or see each other. We ran in different circles near the end anyway. The second time around though, I realized that a small Baptist school is not a fun thing to try and share! And it did make moving on harder. For about the first 6 months of my singleness, I ran into my ex frequently. We didn’t talk, but seeing someone is still hard. It brings memories and memories suck too. So in my experience the more distance the better!

Time will become your friend and your enemy.

“Time heals all.” We’ve all heard that before, and it’s annoying. I remember some days thinking this was true, and some days totally hating on this stupid cliché saying. It does hold some truth though. As time passes things do get easier. You don’t miss them as much, and your new normal does become normal. As time passed though and this new normal set in, I think it also made me sad. When you come out of a good relationship moving on sucks too. In a different way than the hurting did, but it still sucks. Moving on means forgetting things. Good things too. So as helpful as it is to forget the sound of someone’s voice the fact that your forgetting is a little sad. Yet, deep down you know it’s necessary.

Three strikes, you’re out!

*Heyyyy batter batter* This is a lesson that a mentor of mine told me while I was between my two long term relationships. Dating was very new and I had zero idea what I was doing, or what I was suppose to put up with and what I wasn’t. She used this analogy and it was so perfect! Pretty much in the first stages of a relationship a man gets three major strikes. My family calls them red flags, but in my head red flags are a lot bigger deals than strikes (see next point). Strikes to me are simple, but things that are important to you. Like a man telling you that you look nice, or opening doors. Two things which I’ve been on multiple dates with men who just don’t do either. Things I simply could not live with in my life. The beginning of relationships is usually when a man puts his best foot forward. So if there is already things in the beginning that you’re iffy about, it’s kind of a deal (not a big deal…just a deal). Strikes usually aren’t deal breakers all on their own, but get enough of them and boom! You’re out of there!

Red Flags…

Termination. A red flag…just like a red card in soccer, means they are out of the game. Red flags in my own dating life are things like loving Jesus, going to church, partying all the time…things that I just will not compromise in and if someone else does, well we just aren’t meant to be. Know your red flags people! You really can’t skip over the important stuff, or the point of dating is literally pointless.

Time, it’s not worth giving away lightly.

*tick tock tick tock* No one has forever. So don’t waste your time on people who don’t matter. I’ve done this. Too many times to be honest. I’ve given people my time and pieces of my heart that I shouldn’t have. Being single can be very lonely and it’s tempting to spend time and effort on a person simply because they are there. I’ve had those people in my life, and I’ve been that person to others. The rebound, the shoulder to cry on, or the hand to hold when no one else is giving the attention we all so crave. Yet, cuddling and hand holding, attention and love it’s not worth coming from just anyone. And it only fills a temporary desire, not the long term longing we all have. If I could drill this into the minds of the young girls out there, I would. I’ve learned this lesson the hard way one too many times. Only spend your time on people who are worth it, and who will spend their time on you too.

Don’t watch ‘How To Be Single‘ on the anniversary of a break up.

It’s a really good movie, super inspiring…but time it right when you watch it. The year mark of a break up is not a good night to watch it. Trust me. You end up in a bucket of tears, with red splotchy skin, and you feel like a total failure. The girl in the movie really does take singleness and rocks it. If you haven’t seen it, I won’t spoil it for you, but it is inspiring. For me it really kicked me in the butt and made me realize that you can do a lot of things while being single and learning how to live on your own is not a bad thing at all. So yes, I say watch it, just maybe not on a significant day.

Dating someone twice is not a good idea.

This is not the case for everyone. It just happened to be in true with this one person and situation in my life. If you tried and had a good reason to end things the first time around, you probably will still have those reasons the second. But you’ll feel twice as bad when you end it because now you’ve hurt someone not just once, but twice. So if you have reasons why you didn’t like a person, or they had three or more strikes against them, remember those reasons. They are probably still there and it probably isn’t going to be better the second time around. You might also help pay for something significant and then you won’t get your money back…*insert face palm emoji here*

Learn to say no.

I’m preaching at myself here. I still have a really hard time with this one. For some reason “No” is just hard for me to say. I always seem to come up with an excuse rather than just saying no. I’m honestly just trying not to hurt someone’s feelings or be mean. Yet, in reality I’m probably just giving them false hope. “No thank you” is an answer and it’s okay to give it. Dating is weird and awkward already. Saying no helps you avoid anymore awkwardness.

You don’t have to hate them or be bitter to move on.

I think this is a common misconception. Hating someone is never the answer. I mean it. Never. It’s okay to look back at a relationship and still think good things. My last relationship was really great and I had a good time. Yet, it would not be the best thing to have it back. I’ve moved forward and am ready for the next good thing God has for me. Being bitter may help you move on quicker, but I think you hold more baggage that way, and you carry that bitterness into whatever relationship you are going to next. Let it all go. (Yes, just like Frozen). It’s not worth holding onto. You loved someone and they aren’t there anymore. It’s okay. You made good memories and you learned some lessons. Now it’s time to learn some more.

God really does have a plan.

This is a hard lesson. I’m still learning to trust God and let him hold my heart. It’s a constant prayer and battle for me. Yet, I think this is the most important lesson of all. When I was hurting and broken I was in a constant state of prayer, asking God to take the pain away and for strength to get through each moment and day. Then it got easier and I wasn’t in as much pain. Yet, I still am striving to be in that constant state of prayer. Asking God to guide my decisions and to only let me feel attraction where I should. I’ve found that it may be hard to read men, but it’s also hard to read myself. I don’t want to fall for just anyone, I don’t want to give my heart to just anyone, and I especially do not want to get hurt again. I don’t know God’s plan or the person who is suppose to have my heart. So I truly am seeking and asking God to hold my heart and only give it to the right person. I may not know his plan or why I’ve gone through all the situations I have, but I do know that ultimately He is good and He does know the future.

I’m no pro at being single or dating. Honestly, I suck at it. I’ve played games, I’ve been clingy, and I’ve given up. But I am trying and these are all just lessons I’ve learned through my experiences. I hope that the things I’ve learned the hard way can make your process a little bit easier. Like I said before, I do love hearing from y’all. If you don’t feel comfortable commenting your story or lessons below then send me an e-mail (hello@moosmusing.com). I promise I’ll answer comments and e-mails. What are some lessons you’ve learned while dating? Seriously we can all learn from each other!

Blogiversary, Life

4 Years of Blogging and A Survey

March 31, 2017

4 years of blogging

Moo's Musing Blogiversary

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Blog Reader Survey

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4 years of blogging

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Moo's Musing Blog Anniversary

4 years! 4 years of blogging! I can’t believe it! I don’t think I have stuck with anything for four years! It’s amazing. Blogging has become such a big part of my life, and I love it. I love every part of it. The community it has, the other bloggers I’ve met, getting to know readers, and collaborating with amazing companies. It’s all amazing. At this point blogging has become like a hobby turned job in my life, and I am so happy to have such a fun outlet.

With that being said I want to thank y’all for coming and seeing my little corner of the internet. I wouldn’t be here without you. Getting to read others blogs, and seeing other people read mine is so cool! I’ve created a little survey that I would really appreciate if you could take. I would be so grateful for your time and insights. My goal is to relate to you, and create content that you would love to continue reading. So I’d love to hear your ideas and ways I can improve Moo’s Musing.

The survey will take no more than 10 minutes and is anonymous so have at it with your honest feedback! I’m super eager to hear your thoughts and what you like and don’t like! So thank you in advance!